Happy Halloween

Happy Halloween

Happy Halloween to you all. This year we will be having tons of fun!!
The big kids will be having a Halloween fest at school, we
will be trick a' treating with Aprils' soccer crew, I'll be taking my very last final,
then we will be watching movies. Here are some we will be diving into.

Have a fun and safe Halloween!!


Mayors Cup 2012

This weekend April will be playing in the Mayors Cup. We are excited to cheer on our U9 LV Neon players. Our daughters coaches has been teaching her and the others that the league games are practice and tournaments are the real thing. The girls stats as of now are 5W-0L-1T ... Not to shabby. Looking forward to seeing our girls put what they have learned to work. Good luck girls!


Parenting 101

Tonight was on of those nights when I had to have a mother daughter conversation. One of the ones you really don't want to have. You know, one of those kind where you want to drill it into them but be nice all at the same time. Yes one of those!!

As most of you know my oldest is a soccer player, has been for many years. Lately she just has not been into it. Her coaches have notices, we have noticed, and even worse its been noticeable in her game. The coaches are being great about this, giving her time and space to find the "love" of the game again. They have talked with us to get our view point and have made changes to see her smile (I know what your thinking... yes we have great coaches for April!!).

Now as a parent, I had to take a step back, think about how I was going to approach this when I sat her down to talk, and which path I would take. I am not the most understanding person when I am confronted with unnecessary tears. Which happens often with three of my four being little girls. I wanted to make sure that I didn't direct her incorrectly, and I am happy with the out come.

I let her tell me her feelings on the subject and what she shared of course was heart breaking because she is my little girl. But honestly we all face this same issue in life. April shared with me that the friendships she once had are no longer there and that hurts her feelings. She misses her once friends. She went on to share that she gets frustrated with the unkind things that some of the girls say, how they are rude to her, or even at times purposely mean. Lastly she shared how she was upset because she feels like she has to overly try just to be noticed.

Hard to hear any of it to be honest with you. I know all of these little girls, some for years. I know their families, how they are being taught and what values they have been given. Thus why we are on this team. So I had to take a deep breath, hide my own disappointment and hurt I felt for her. I had to advise her the best way I knew how.

I told her to not care what others think of her. Everyone's opinions are pointless compared to the one she has of herself. Someone is not your friend if they are only your friend when others are not around, they are not your friend if they tease you or make fun of you. I told her little girls are mean, that sometimes she can be mean herself. I told her to remember these feelings when someone who may not be so cool at school wants to play with her, or if someone she doesn't get along with needs help or a kind smile. I told April that out side of soccer she has her true set of friends. The ones who want to know how her day went, that want to hang out, those who enjoy her company. I told her to toughen up and have thicker skin. I told her that they don't matter as long as she is happy with herself.

Lastly I talked with her about her choices. That if she wasn't happy with soccer or this team that she could leave after the season. April would hear none of that, stating that even though they may not be her friends that is her soccer family. I am proud of my daughter. I hope that this rough time will make her stronger. That those around her will learn from her strength, and will learn a little more kindness from hers.

Sometimes life throws us a curve ball, and you want to always make things better for your kids. I refuse to change my kid or ask her to change just to please someone else. I want April to be who she is and strive to be the best of that. Some people won't like what I have said or how I teach my children. To bad. My children will learn to be stronger better people for it.


What I Have Been Working On

Some of the gifts I have been making for the holidays to come.
Its been fun challenging myself to making all the gifts for this year.
I wonder if I can make it through!?!

Update -- The kids

With the kids in a new school, me just about to finish school, new soccer club, a second softball team, gymnastics ( woohooo finally ), and a whole lot of life happening ... it seems like I am starting over.

       The kids started school off with out a miss step. They both love their new teachers, classrooms and class mates, as well as the school itself. I am not sure yet how much a fan I am!? We shall see as time goes. I do know one thing though, there are some amazing people there. With every great person there are always the few you wish you could do with out. I am just happy to have someone running the school that knows what they are doing.
       April has had a few hiccups with her grades... do not fret she is already picking them back up to her normal A honor roll. She is doing great in soccer. Her coaches are leading her in the right directions. I think the change for her is now having a challenge, something I do not think she was getting before.
      Havanna is adjusting well. Already well known for her goofiness and funny side. She is growing smarter and smarter each day, as long as she wants to show it and challenge herself i suspect she will be getting a great report card. She has made so many friends, and is loving it. Her 7th birthday is right around the corner and she can not wait for her Alice and Wonderland themed party. I think we counted something like 30+ kids coming. She started Gymnastics and excelled right away. I always knew it was what she was meant to do.
       Tatiana is so ready for school. I think she is mentally keeping a calender count down to when she will be able to go. She is learning her Alphabet in Spanish thanks to her sisters, who now take Spanish at school. She is becoming more and more imaginative as each day passes. My girly girl by far if I say so myself. She is truly my mini me. I do not know what I will do when she is sixteen {start saying your prayers for me now} but we will deal with that when it comes along. She is still my little singer, always learner a new song.
      Cristofer is such a big boy now. So solid and strong. He thinks at times that he is the big brother. Poor boy gets it from three older sisters. He is in love with his Thomas the Train still and is becoming a fan of all hot wheels. He sits there with all of them going crazy if one goes missing. He is a joker, always trying to make you laugh. I look forward to seeing which sport he chooses to go into. He is learning Spanish as well. Already knowing his colors and numbers and even all his shapes. Hes a smart boy.
       That is the catch up on my kids for now. Life has been busy but a blessing. I have been thinking about coming back full time to blogging once life slows down. I miss writing for the Christian blog i was apart of { love that they still have me down as a team member.. a loving group of people } and I miss reading all the blogs i follow. Only time will tell how much i get into it before the start of the new year.... we shall see :)