9/30/10

Guest writer - Sarah

i asked a friend of mine to be my first featured guest writer. i am pretty open about what is written here on my blog and didnt have to many guide lines. so now that i have received my email from her, she has given me two choices. i can not pick between the two. there were no titles so i will give my own so you can see each post as its own i hope she doesnt mind, im sure she wont. so i will be posting both in this post. enjoy and leave her a comment she will be stopping by and reading. hopefully we can convince her to become a blogger.

Guest Writer for October 2010- Sarah K.

post one: the importance of a mom


I graduated from UCSB three years ago with a degree in chemistry. I have always worked really hard at school – I was that girl voted “Most Likely to Succeed.” I had planned on going to medical school and “becoming something.”

Then… I met my husband, Matthew. Now though I hadn’t planned on getting married at 22… I was still able to become something. We planned to continue on in school together. Then… shock of all shock… I was pregnant. I was on the pill… so this isn’t what was supposed to happen. But it did… and life took a turn I hadn’t quite planned on.

I struggled with it at first. I had been told my whole life that I was going to “be somebody”…. whatever that means. Then my son, Dylan was born… and my life was no longer about me. It was about how I would love, care for and grow this little life that God blessed me with. He is my goal. He is my boy. I can see nothing more than that…

People give me about 3 months and then begin to ask me when I am returning to school. When will I continue on in my path of success (the detour had apparently already taken too long). They were sure I wouldn’t want to “waste” my brain and wither into oblivion. Because, don’t you know… “you can have it all.”

Let me pause to say… yes YOU can have it all… but your, husband, children or work won’t. You cannot be a full time mother who gives her child/ren all of the time they need, a wife who loves on her husband and gives him the love and care that he deserves and a full time career woman – something’s got to give.

With that said, I made my choice. I choose to be a wife and mom. This is not to say that a woman who chooses to work is making bad choices. Everyone needs to make the choice that fits the needs and abilities that they have. This is to say that I am sick and tired of people looking down on moms who choose their families over their careers. As though we are somehow less “empowered”… being empowered means knowing my worth. It does not mean stepping on everyone else in order to insure I get everything I want or think that I “deserve.” It means that I am confident enough to make my husband dinner, do the laundry, and take care of my kids without feeling like I am being subjugated. It means that I love my husband and children and know that they value me too.

My point is this. Whatever it is you do, stay at home or go to work… if your motives are for the good of your family and not focused solely on yourself… I commend you.



post two: appreciation for a loved one


When Claudia asked me to write this blog… I honestly had no idea what I was going to say. And then I looked at something on Facebook that I had reposted:

HUSBAND WEEK ~ If you have a husband that makes your life interesting, who
works hard to provide for your family, who has been there through thick
& thin, who has been a blessing in your life and to whom you are
PROUD to be married to, and who is your best friend, repost.


...this in your status with your wedding date.....
Later I saw that Claudia had done the same thing. And then I read a comment that a mutual friend of ours, Adam, had written… “It’s about time we get some recognition”… this set me to thinking…thinking about our husbands and fathers. And Adam is completely right.
12/22/06 ...this in your status with your wedding date..... 12/22/06

When you watch TV, the husband/father is always portrayed as some lay about moron - more concerned with his television, sports and beer than with his own family. Ever taken a good look at the card selection during Father’s Day? All of the cards talk about a dad’s worth amounting to allowance, being a remote king, or having a beer belly. While Mother’s day cards gush about the importance of a mom and how amazing they are. Now I, being a mom and having a mother who is also my best friend, knows how important a good mom is. But I am also married to a wonderful man and have a father who will always be my “daddy”. And I wonder why no consideration is given to the men who….

get up at 4 am to schlep to work in order to provide for their families – without complaint, love on their wives regardless of whatever mood she might be in. To the dads who are the strongest shoulder their daughter’s may ever lean on. The dads who are an amazing role model to their sons. The husband’s who take out the garbage or kill those wretched spiders creeping about.

I know that there are some shmucky guys out there… but a few bad eggs shouldn’t make it so all men are discounted or go without recognition. So, if you have a husband who is your love and best friend… give him a kiss tonight and let him know! It’s about time he got some recognition .




9/29/10

thirsty thursday blog hop

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9/26/10

a moment i am looking forward to having

so today my father went to the casino after not going basically for the whole weekend. he had a football ticket he wanted to see if he had won on it. i thought i would stop by and check on him see if he was having fun. he gave me $20 to see if i had any luck that day (i didnt) and to also hang with him a little longer. it got close to almost an hour that i was there and i realized i had to get going to start on dinner. so i said i would see him soon and he continued to play a little. i went to pick my car up got in and started to drive away.

thats when i seen them. this older couple saying their goodbyes. he got out opened her door for her and gave her a little kiss. he followed that with a soft touch to her cheek and you could see he was saying i love you. they must have been in their late 80. being 26, married for 8 years and knowing that hes truly the one,i look forward to this and i cant wait for it. i want to be that couple and i know the hubs does to.

so that is the moment that i am waiting for and years in between.

im a intentional planner - come join me

For The Love Of 4

so all this talk about the intentional planner and how i want to implement in my day to day life it thought it might be fun if you would like to do it with me. you can email me for any type of help or print out for your intentional planner, and we can get our families, homes and relationship with god on track.

Today i start my intentional planning fully and love the fact that it is going to be great. so if your going to be an intentional planner join in and have fun.

Sunday love - the end of the fun



so i had family and friends over this weekend as i mentioned in another post. it was fun, besides the little disappointment of not enough time and the lack of time spent well, i enjoyed the late night convo. me and my bff stopped at the best chicken place, had some yummy sweet tea and went to the casino for a little bit where i won her money. we ended our night having a great convo into the wee hours of the morning. it was refreshing.

the disappointment you ask.... well time not spent well is the problem. i see and hope for things to go a way that i want it to go. the fact that it doesnt go that way isnt a disappointment, its more just simply sad. i had a plan for saturday. i wanted this family type of weekend that was fun and exciting. instead it was more of a task. but i guess that it is the way that it is and not everything can be the way that i want it.

we all got up and got dressed to go on time and with out argument (that doesnt always happen even when it is just my small little family). after running in and out a few times with the new security system made for a fun adventure. we got to the game with time to spare and once it started, i really didnt pay much attention to any guest because i was focused on my monkey playing. i can tell you though that they were more into texting and phone calls(a few glances to the field) then the game. they took some pictures though an i look forward to looking at them. then there was the picnic, we got to the picnic and already had a small little not so happy moment.we got past that, it was my hubs moment to enjoy his company picnic and to see his friends. it wasnt time for his wife to have a tiffy because things werent going as planed. once inside, it seemed no one really wanted to be there so i could tell my hubs was getting upset that no one wanted to enjoy them self. my father love the feeling of the union togetherness, so he enjoyed it i am sure. it was a nice picnic, great food fun things for the kids and all the people running for office that support the union were there in full. after no one wanted to do much (as soon as we finished eating) my hubs and i just suggested that we should go so we did. everyone was up for a shopping trip though after wards but it is what it is right?

then fast forward to the fun night i wrote about in the beginning. really i love nights like that. sitting with old friends that are really family and having a memory lane type of talk. it was great and i so look forward to the next time she comes!!!!

9/25/10

silly saturday - more like crazy saturday


so today i have a jammed packed day. not only do i have family in town, i also have a soccer game to attend, a union picnic, helping at the school and all my weekend regular stuff. to say the least we will have a blast im sure but i also know there will be break downs and crying fights from all the children.

so here is my run down for the day. im up, yes butt crack early and i will be making blue berry muffins and pancakes for breakfast. after that i will be waking the children if they are not already up and get them started on the dressing part as they finish their breakfast. shower myself and start getting game stuff ready and the baby bag. i will be trying to pack light because the game is 10am and the picnic starts at 11am. we will be 30-45 mins late. after we get home unpack and settle for a moment, i will be taking my sister-in-law to get her nails done, (i cheated and got mine yesterday so i would have more time) and probably get ready for a moms night out ladies night out for the ones with no children). didnt i mention that on my weekend to do list... lol well there you go that is my sat.

and if that isnt enough i joined in on a blog hop
Just Married with Coupons
go and join in

so what do you have to do today ?? i would love to know !!

9/24/10

intentional planner - the update

as mentioned early in another one of my post i am using the intentional planner to reorganize my home maintenance notebook, and i wanted to update you all on the status of how its going and how useful the planner really is.

so i purchased the eBook for $5 and got 247 pages. out of those 247 pages i used i want to say around 190 of them. i would say a good 20-25 are info and directions, tips and tricks and the rest that i didnt use are homeschool pages that i wont put to use right now. i found that the pages seemed to be very useful looking and i was looking forward to getting to put them to use. so i called a friend of mine, my accountability partner and shared with her my little find. we met up at Denny's to enjoy some yummy $2 ice cream and hush puppies. let me tell you they beat brownies out any day. did i mention they were made with Oreo's? we sat for a hour or so and put our binders together tab by tab page by page. i was even more excited to get to using it now that i had it all put together.

i got home printed out a few more pages that i must have missed the first round and then intentionally planned my last two days for this week. let em tell you its a lot different but for a christian based mom/woman it is well worth the time to do so. intentional planning has to do with making more time with HIM. including HIM in your day more and more. for me that has always been a challenge. so this will help remind me through out the day. i love that its all in one binder now instead of three. maybe now i will actually use all the things i put so much hard time into.

so to my accountability partner,

thank you for joining me. thank you for holding me accountable. for being my strength in path to get closer to HIM. thank you for being my sister in christ and thank you for letting me see the all in you. you truly are a special person and even in the ups and downs of our day to day life's, you still amaze me.

fun friday - from a new outlook



today i am looking at my task from a new outlook. i always found house work (my job or not) unhappily unhappy. so i usually try everything under the sun to get away from doing it, to get someone else to do it and to pretend to do it and not. so from here on out i am looking at it like it is all fun task. to do them with a smile on my face and enjoy keeping my home. i mean its my dream right? to be a stay at home mom, a house wife and all. well then i need to get on my game. stop doing things half butt and get on it.

i now have a true blue accountability partner, one that will stick this time. we shall hold each other accountable for the things we should be doing and things we havent done. we will be honest no matter how much we may not want to hear it and we will be a shoulder when needed too. i have already let me partner know what i plan on doing this morning and will connect with her before lunch to account for my task and set up the afternoon ones.

im looking forward to my new out look on my daily task. it only takes a attitude adjustment and a change of perception to get on the right track.

my friday blog hoping



so i figured i would make a little post to let you
all know i am doing friday blog hopping. leave a comment
and i will follow you back

9/23/10

Meeting Margaret Cho - thanks to Mar

thanks to Mar and her wonderfully big heart i got to meet one of my all time favorite comedians. mar had taken me to a show last month, treated me to see some great comedy. while waiting to get the tickets we noticed that Margaret would be there so we were super excited. we thought at that time that the prices weren't to bad and that it would be fun. Mar explains why she ended up not getting tickets and as for me well with a new house other things came up. afternoon of the show i get a phone call from Mar asking if i would like to go with her. of course i said yes after my million thank yous (she is always doing such nice things for me) and went out looking for a new shirt. so here is our night in a Mar nutshell. follow this link to her blog read her post on team Camel toe...lol and then follower her join her giveaways. she is that awesome

http://www.obviously-marvelous.com/2010/09/meeting-margaret-cho.html

9/22/10

i found this so funny but true i had to share it

so one of my followers that i now follower had a very funny but true post. the reason i found it funny was the way he worded it and the fact that it is the same in many of the vegas Mc D's. if you order a drink it is usually three parts ice one part drink. they now have signs stating there are no longer free refills. when i read this post soda almost came out of my nose. i find this so incredible where we are left to think of companies and how important we are to them. i remember that old saying, "customer is always right".... what happen to that ???

read his post here...

http://kissablesview.blogspot.com/2010/09/can-i-get-some-soda-on-this-ice.html

thirsty thursday blog hop

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friendships - to the stars and forever

the women in my life:
alot of people always ask me in emails and in chats, who am i talking about when i mention my bff. i think it is because i try not to use their names that when i speak of the bff they always sound like a different person. well they all mostly are. i was thinking about it and i felt it would be great for you to meet all my bff's. some of them have blogs and some dont, so i wont be posting pictures but instead blogs if they have one.

so my friends are something so important to me because i dont have many. when i become friends with someone i work at our friendships to make it the most i can. i dont let many people in so this blog was kind of a shoocker to some of them. i will take a few mins to talk about each of them as i see them. this will be done in no order of importance just who ever comes to mind next will go next. they equally mean the world to me.

Sarah:

what can i say. i have known this chick for what seems like forever. i met her in grade school and we became sisters. we live so far away from each other but yet when we talk it is like we are only seconds away. the one thing about her that sticks out in my mind, is that she was my dictionary. i would call her when ever i didnt know how to spell something. and let me tell you ... she could spell every word i ever asked for she was never to busy to help me. she is a wonderful mom to two little ones. she is married and is someone i look up to.

Marcie:

so this chick is some one i cant help but be friends with. she is just like me and at the same time nothing like me. we have different beliefs, ways of doing things and lifestyles(not really). but with all of those differences we are so much alike that it is nice to have a mom who thinks the way i do. she is a mom to three little ones and a wife to her best bud. she rocks my socks and i bet she would rock yours too.

Blog- www.obviously-marvelous.com


Kelly:

this is a lady that i enjoy having in life. she brought me closer to god and taught me many things when it comes to him. she is someone i can talk to with out fear of being judged. she is a mom to two wonderfully smart children and married to her best friend. she simply inspires me.

blog- www.findingjoyinvegas.blogspot.com


Jacky:


this is a lady that has taught me so much in such a short time when it comes to teaching my children. we have built such a wondrous friendship in a small amount of time that i would be so sad if i didnt have it. she is a mom to two wonderful children and wife to her hubs/best friend. she is a wonderful teacher here in vegas, i feel that any of you would be beyond blessed to have your child in her room.


Christina:

another chick that i have known for what feels like a lifetime. she is so special always wanting to make you smile. so trust worthy and silly. a mother to two little ones, and a best friend to them both. she is a fantastic makeup goddess, that has taught me a trick or two. she would do anything for her family and i am blessed enough to be apart of that family.

blog- www.amomwearingmakeupnow.blogspot.com

Tess:


this is one of my newest friends. someone i am getting to know. she is sweet and trust worthy, kind and caring. she is someone i can give advice to and in return know that i can get some from her. she is the mother to two super cute boys and a wife to her buddy. i look forward to a lasting friendship with her and getting to know her more and more through the years


now i have many more friends. i even have male best friends, but this is about the women in my life. i could go on forever about those who surround me. but these few people that i have mentioned are those who are apart of my everyday life. the ones who help support me, check up on me, and care for me and my family. i love these people and enjoy them head to toe. there laughter their tears and their silly moments. these are the people who make me .... well me.

intentionally planning - for the crazy mind of me

so i have been looking into ways to redo my home maintenance/ home planning notebook, and found that the sites that were offering free to frugal (cheap isnt aloud in my vocab) costing printouts just wasnt working for what i wanted to do. then i cam across a youtube video talking about that persons planner/notbook. let me tell you i wasnt a fan of how her notebook was packed but i was over joyed by some of the printouts that she was sharing. so i turned up the volume hoping to hear where she got them from. !!!!!! She shared !!!!!!

i found what i have been looking for and i thought you would like to know about it. its called intentional planning. its new to me but maybe old to you. i got extra excited about it and bought it as fast as i could. at $5 and 247 pages it is organize heaven.

link to the example of the printable pages:

intentional planning printable's


so here is my review on it all :

so out of the 247 pages i would have to say that 200 of them are printable for use. out of those 200 pages i would say i will be using 200 of them in my notebook. i found that the intentional religious part of it will help me with my goal on my walk to getting closer to him. i find that all the cute little pictures/clipart that are apart of this is fun and encouraging to make me want to use them. for $5 bucks i wouldnt be able to get it all together. in the frugal to free way of doing it all, i dont think i could have found enough free sites, free printables and all the time it would take to put it together.

i think this is for everyone and would be helpful in running your home in a more organized manner. enjoy

9/15/10

with love to Obviously Marvelous ... for all the hard work she does

Thirsty Thursday Blog Hop


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I'm Claudia from For The Love Of 4. My blog is filled with funny
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I am a mother to 4 wonderfully blessed sanity suckers and a wife to my hubs
of 8 years. Stop by take a look and say hello.


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Follow back friday

with everything that has happened in the past month or so i have not had a moment to sit down and foll0w back the wonderful bloggers that took the time to follow me. so this friday i am going to pamper my self to a cup of yummy coffee and have a few peaceful moments to go through all the comments, follow back everyone who has left a comment for me to follow them back and read a few blog. i look forward to it. i look forward to getting back to the things i enjoyed so much.

when we started this blog hop it was a shared work load between me and the other host. being the wonderful chick that she is Mar from Obviously Marvelous tool over all the happenings of running it while i sorted through all of this mishap. so i wanted to take a moment to say thank you. while i personally speak with her and she knows how much i appreciate all she does i wanted all of you to know. so please if you have stopped by to see me and come across this post stop by her wonderful blog join a giveaway and say hello for me.

http://www.obvisouly-marvelous.com

9/7/10

an eye opener - to infinty and beyond

Loss is something i am not sure how to deal with but that i am left with no choice but to. Recently i loss my nephew. A little boy in love with toy story and cars. He was only 2 1/2 and for a split second it questioned my faith. When i say split second i mean just that. as i questioned how could this be? Why would he take a baby? I answered my own questions. Some times things just happen and they happen for a reason. A plan that i may never know but a plan i am sure is in place by HIM.

The eye opening moment.....
Tues. of last week i get a very sad phone call about my nephew being in a coma. I speed home to break the news to my father and with put thinking break down in front of my children. I had to pull it together and answer the now million questions being thrown at me.

My children, my oldest mostly wanted to know what was going on. My hubs and I made our minds up a long time ago that we would always be honest to them. So i explained what i knew and that it didnt look good. For her to keep him in her prayers and know that God is watching over her. April didnt question me any further after that. She went straight on being a 6 year old kid and i believed what we just talked about didnt affect her in anyway.

That night when we said our prayers goodnight, April starts to pray. "before i lay me down to sleep i pray the lord..." you know how it goes i am sure. But only she said something different that night. "before i lay me down to sleep i pray the lord Klassics soul to keep" Klassic is my nephew. Really reading this you may not know how profound that hit me. Im in tears now typing about it. My 6 year old was more concerned about someones soul then her self. she told me the next morning that if he has to be an angel at least he is with God. That Jesus loves him that much.

How could i have ever question my faith, for even just that little second. When my 6 year old, a child still learning life gets it. It was really an eye opener and a big help in my grieving. I mean i miss him. i really really do. I couldnt have had a better mommy moment then that, then knowing my children truly feel the love of christ. Truly knows that they have a place in Gods kingdom.

9/2/10

Helpful helpful meets paper cuts

So I have been helping at Aprils school and it's great getting back into the swing of things. I'm helping a few teachers one being Aprils. I think because it's the beginning of the school year they all need papers copied. Can we say owwwww. I got five paper cuts today alone. But it was nice being able to help.

No in just trying to get my schedule up and running and working for me. The kids have been helpful by wearing their listening ears. I'm sure that won't last forever but I'll take it as long as I can.

Having my father here is a great gift. Having his help has meant so much. Looking forward to tomorrow!!

9/1/10

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I'm Claudia from For The Love Of 4. My blog is filled with funny
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I am a mother to 4 wonderfully blessed sanity suckers and a wife to my hubs
of 8 years. Stop by take a look and say hello.



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dealing with the mess of things

i am kind of stuck not knowing what to do. i am at the moment dealing with so much and trying to keep a smile on my face. my world has kind of been turned up side down. while i have a happy yet very stressful blessing to be thankful about(getting a new home) on the flip side i have lost my nephew.

im not sure how to deal with it all. how long do i stay angry and how long do i stay quiet. i dont know really. i look at my children even harder now trying to remember every last thing that they do. i want to know what each smile is about and if i can make them smile bigger.

stress, fear, anger and worriment.... i am feeling them all and at once. the beginning of the school year has helped a little. Marcie has kept me busy and has me coming to what i love a lot this blog. and my friends have been understanding about me not totally being here.

im sure i will snap out of it soon, i dont want to be a let down. i am sure i will be that old claudia again, if that is even possible. but in all of this i still have faith and i feel beyond blessed.