11/15/12

Mom's Can Be Difficult To





I am who I am and NOT what I look like!!
     Have you ever gotten tired of others questioning you? Well I have. The fact is, no matter where I go or how tame I try to make myself I stand out. Guess what?? I don't care. I am always asked what I consider my "fashion style" to be. I never thought I had one. So I usually do not answer. Today was just another lesson in realizing to trust in myself and not in what others want me to listen to. As some of you know I have attended school again. I try to keep my thoughts to myself when it comes to my newest schooling adventure until the time is right. Well here is just a little of what has been up.

    So many times over the school has asked me to cover up my tattoos, as though that makes them not real. To change my hair color and style. Being who I am I could only compromise to a certain extent. To be honest the compromises I made had nothing to do with the school but more with what my pocket book could handle at the present time. After experiencing my first extern site, seeing what the school as coined "the real world appearance" with my own eyes and well being disappointed I stopped listening and went back to ME. To say in the nicest way, that site and me did not fit. I let the school know I expected more for the next one and that is what led to a meeting.

   I figured I could down play the way I dress simply so it did not become a meeting of defending my choices. What I choose to wear was simple, business casual with a little twist to it. All the pieces I can bet every mom owns but just wears them in a different way. Its the way I wore them that had them on guard. We got through our meeting and I thought for once that it was not going to be an issue. Boy was I wrong. I told them basically with out letting them finish their point of view that this was me and I was not changing. That in the "real world" I would not change myself to gain a job, so why do it for the school. If a place did not want me based on my appearance then it was not a place for me to work. I am educated in the fields that I would consider working in, they should only judge me on my skill set.


    Next my hair came into question. I knew it was coming so I made a light hearted joke out of it. Stating the color is of no issue depending on how I wear it. Another speech followed, letting me know of all the wrong reasons for looking this way.  Because they were sending me to what they consider to be their top extern site, they asked if I would please be on my best behavior and cover up and change. Here is the thing, I did no such thing. Well I behaved. I am not stupid people. I know how to go to an interview while still being myself. I went to this interview today, as me. Guess what happened??


       I was greeted kindly, asked to sit and began answering questions about what I am capable of doing. I was asked about my experience at "the school" that I was kind enough to hold back on. I was asked about the other site I was sent to , which I again held my opinion. I was given a run down of what would be expected of me. I was asked what I expected of them and a few jokes where bounced back and forth. Not once did my appearance unsettle a potential employer nor did the way I look change my intelligence level. Of course I asked about the policies on clothing and tattoos, and I was greeted with ... "we don't have one. Just be presentable as you are now and your fine." Funny right they didn't care. Now if I get the job or not is up to them. But at least I stayed true to who I am and did not allow a school to dictate who I should be. Yes I love everything "retro", yes I dress a little differently and have my hair differently then most, but it's me. People should learn to love themselves! I love me !!

     



 

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