8/4/10

parenting - what i need to change and start doing

i see that when i parent my children my voice is at a level where i dont want it to be, my attitude follows the direction of my voice and i am frustrated way to fast. parenting is everything i thought it would be plus some. i knew that it would not be all happy moments and that there would be times that i just want to lock my self in the bathroom{by the way my bathroom has no lock}.

i always wanted to be that mom where my children respected me enough to know their boundaries and love me enough to wanna be my friend around their friends. at the moment while all of my childrens friends like me, i am not sure my children like the everyday mommy that is here now. that is why i want to change a few things.

so here is what brings this on. while my children played baby today with their dolls, i listened to how they spoke to the babies. my youngest girl{2} continuously kept asking her baby if she was ok. while my oldest two {5 and 6} were not so nice to there babies. they kept sending their dolls to there room and saying not now im busy. i feel so bad that this is what my little girls think that a mom is. so now it changes.

i am going to cut down on the yelling as much as possible in hopes others will follow, have more activity time and story time with them, spend less time on me and more on them. i am hoping that these small changes will make a big difference. with these i know that a lot of things will go better once i do that.

so here goes nothing and i hope i can make this change fast for them more then me!!!

13 comments:

  1. Great word!! I'll join you in this!

    Have a great iFellowship Day!

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  2. I need to join you in this as well!
    Praying for you!

    Stopping by from ifellowship!
    Praying your day is blessed!

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  4. Penny, thank you for always stopping by and showing your support. it is great to know someone will be joining me in the well filed trip {make it sound fun}

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  6. Amy, thank you for following and joining me in my journey ...

    Hootiebee - thank you for following

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  7. Visiting from iFellowship. I am a homeschooling mom too. I bet those small changes will make a big difference.

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  8. Good for you- for noticing & wanting to change. It's amazing how much our mommy hearts learn as we watch/listen to our little ones- isn't it!? Thanks for sharing!
    Jessica

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  9. Good luck to you!! Recognizing where you want change to happen is the first step!

    Here from WW! Have a wonderful day!

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  10. I love this post. Motherhood is so challenging at times. I think that changing the bad stuff in our lives as soon as we notice it is so important. You go girl! :)
    Blessings,
    Sue

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  11. Love this post! Daily I have to remind myself to Narrow my Focus and keep the end in mind. The end meaning, having grown, God following kids. I'm learning that a mom Never goes a day with out worrying about if she's achieving her mission. The mission stays the same, but sometimes the strategy just has to change.

    Check my blog out if you get the chance. Again, Great post!

    www.momwithaminivan.com

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  12. I'm there with you my friend!
    Really, I've taken the less yelling more time approach with my kiddos and although it is a long and winding road, I have seen a few changes. In them and in me :)
    And although my bathroom does have a lock, it doesn't provide any freedom from knocking, yelling and "Mommy?" "Mommy!" "Mommy?"

    Great Post!

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  13. The same thing happened to me a few days ago. I have four kids too, and I try so hard. That's all we can do, right? Everyday I try 120% and I love, love, love. And I know God will make it alright. My kids won't grow up mean and yelling, and they will be loving to others. That's what I'm holding onto.

    Love your blog. Following you!

    http://www.nickiwoo.com

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